Today my son's (he is seven years old) friend came home to play with him. They were playing and talking within my earshot. In between their usual chit chat there was this very unusual(for the grown up world) thing which caught my attention. My son was telling him about something which had happened three four days back but was not very clear about it so to he tried to give some reference to that event."arre jis din hamara jhagda hua tha" (the day we fought!).And here they were...sitting together again and chatting away to the glory!!
It made me wonder what it is that take away this quality from us when we grow up? Why do we become so polite that we no longer express our views with clarity.Why do we let our ever burgeoning ego come between us and our loved ones? Why do we let the pretense take over our personality? We seem to have lost our ability to argue without having the fear of losing respectability.We do not speak our mind specially if its against the mass held idea!We nurse our ego and let go our friendship......At times I do wonder if the very purpose of growing up has become redundant? Aren't the children better off than the grownups?
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Hi Bhabhi,
nice post... I could relate to the incident of talking about fights with friends when I was younger. It is puzzling.
It may be because as we grow older we tend to compare ourselves to others a lot more. We become lot more sensitive as well about criticism due to this tendency to compare.
Also as kids our main concern is playing & studying. As we grow older, we can easily get into trap of trying to prove ourselves better than others. As kids seldom do we want to prove ourselves "better" than our good friends.
Nice to see this post. Keep writing.
Growing up... I am sure it is important :) Otherwise who will be doing work that brings us food etc ? Also who will be taking care of things that require the level of knowledge and skill grown ups have.
In fact childhood is an opportunity to learn to be able to survive as an adult. We do loose some of the good qualities in the process which is bad.
Thanks for liking the post and the comment. Yes when we are born we do have certain duties as human being and growing up gives the strength and wisdom to achieve the same.I feel competition too is a kind of that tool which pushes and motivates a person to achieve more but what i am concerned about is the growing ego and the unwillingness of people to accept his/her fault and appreciate others qualities!
In physical sense we do grow up but unfortunately I do have to say that on emotional and ethical quotient we start moving southwards.wish we could retain that quality even in our adulthood!!
September 24, 2008 11:23 PM
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